Hey there my lovelies! Today we’re going to be talking about how to enjoy being alone, or your alone time. Whether your single, or just want to start taking time for yourself I have some tip and tricks to help!
𝙶𝚎𝚝𝚝𝚒𝚗𝚐 𝚒𝚗 𝚝𝚘𝚞𝚌𝚑 𝚠𝚒𝚝𝚑 𝚠𝚑𝚘 𝚢𝚘𝚞 𝚊𝚛𝚎
In our society these days, we are so reliant on technology, and posting pictures of our best life, that we often loose touch with who we really are. If you get some free time when you’re alone, or you’re single and are trying to learn to be alone, the biggest tip I can give is to get in touch with yourself. Take time to discover new things and finding out what it is you enjoy doing. Learn about what makes you happy and what triggers you. If you don’t take time to get to know yourself, how do you expect other people to get to know you. Some activities that can really help you get in tune with yourself are Yoga/ Mediating, Writing/ Journaling, Going for a walk (w/o music, listen to the sounds of nature). All of these activities allow you to think, and breath, and open your mind.
𝙶𝚎𝚝 𝚢𝚘𝚞𝚛𝚜𝚎𝚕𝚏 𝚊 𝚑𝚘𝚋𝚋𝚒𝚎
This is a very important one in learning to enjoy alone time. Obviously if you’re alone with nothing to do, you’re gonna feel sad and bored. The key is to fill the silence with a hands on activity. This keeps your mind moving, and your attention on something other than you being alone. For me, I love knitting, or reading, or even beading, these activities help me stay at peace with myself. If there is something you’ve always wanted to try like pottery or painting, nows the time to do that. Allow yourself to get engulfed in this activity and understand why you enjoy doing it.
𝚂𝚝𝚊𝚢 𝚘𝚏𝚏 𝚢𝚘𝚞𝚛 𝚙𝚑𝚘𝚗𝚎
Another very important tip, when you’re trying to enjoy alone time is to stay off your phone. Nothing can ruin your mood, or alone time faster than going on Instagram or Facebook and seeing other people lives and all the spectacular things that they are doing. If you’re afraid that someone might need you or need to get in contact with you than take small steps. Put your phone on airplane mode for thirty to forty minutes and take that time to do something you enjoy. Its okay to not want to text people all the time, or get to those phone call you know you need to. Sometimes the only thing keeping you sane is that alone time you have. So enjoy it, turn off your phone and do an activity.
𝙲𝚘𝚖𝚎 𝚝𝚘 𝚝𝚎𝚛𝚖𝚜 𝚠𝚒𝚝𝚑 𝚝𝚑𝚒𝚗𝚐𝚜 𝚝𝚑𝚊𝚝 𝚊𝚛𝚎 𝚋𝚘𝚝𝚑𝚎𝚛𝚒𝚗𝚐 𝚢𝚘𝚞
We all know this happens to us, if we are not distracting ourselves with technology or other things and we actually have time to think. We start to think about all the things that have gone wrong in our life and we start to dig up all the junk from the past. The best way to get over this and learn to enjoy alone time without feeling like your gonna cry, is to deal with whats bothering you. Now, this is obviously not easy, its not gonna be something that happens overnight. But it is something you can work on slowly and you will eventually be able to overcome whats bothering you. My advice is to do things that will help heal you. For example write letters about those people or things that are bothering you. Having a safe space like a journal to spill all the things you wish you said or could never say is extremely rewarding. Also sitting down to meditate and making a point to think, really think about whats bothering you and think it through. Understanding what you could have done differently or why it was or wasn’t your fault.